When I was a young girl, my mother would try to motivate me to eat by saying, “Think of all the starving children in the world who would be happy to eat this food.” My feeling sorry for those children took away my appetite.
When I didn’t do my homework, my teacher would embarrass me in front of the entire class. This didn’t make me love to do homework. Instead it made me hate the subject that teacher taught.
I didn’t call home very frequently. Whenever I did call home, the first reaction I heard was always, “How come you didn’t call until now? Why do you make us worry so much about you?” This made me feel guilty. But I so disliked hearing this that I kept pushing off making telephone calls to my parents. I wish they would have said, “We’re so happy to hear from you.” This would have made me call more often.
When my friend told me about mistakes he made, I used to react, “How could you have messed up such an easy thing?” He wanted my suggestion about what to do to prevent these mistakes in the future. Only later did I find out that my reactions stopped him from confiding in me.
Simple words could transform someone.
The train has started moving. It is packed with people of all ages, mostly with the working men and women and young college guys and gals. Near the window, seated a old man with his 30 year old son. As the train moves by, the son is overwhelmed with joy as he was thrilled with the scenery outside..
” See dad, the scenery of green trees moving away is very beautiful”
This behaviour from a thirty year old son made the other people feel strange about him. Every one started murmuring something or other about this son.”This guy seems to be a krack..” newly married Anup whispered to his wife.
Suddenly it started raining… Rain drops fell on the travelers through the opened window. The Thirty year old son , filled with joy ” see dad, how beautiful the rain is ..”
Anup’s wife got irritated with the rain drops spoiling her new suit.
Anup ,” cant you see its raining, you old man, if ur son is not feeling well get him soon to a mental asylum..and dont disturb public henceforth”
The old man hesitated first and then in a low tone replied ” we are on the way back from hospital, my son got discharged today morning , he was a blind by birth, last week only he got his vision, these rain and nature are new to his eyes.. Please forgive us for the inconvenience caused…”
The things we see may be right from our perspective until we know the truth. But when we know the truth our reaction to that will hurt us too. So try to understand the problem better before taking a harsh action.